Ask Allie!
~ For GLBT and Questioning Teens: Answers to YOUR questions about healthy relationships ~

First, I would like to begin by telling you and anyone else who has survived a suicide attempt that I am proud of you for being able to pull through and I am especially proud of you now for reaching out for assistance.
Having thoughts of suicide can be scary and overwhelming. It is important to [...]

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The coming out process is different for everyone. Some people are fortunate enough to have friends and family who are simply supportive and it does not affect them or their social circle. Others, unfortunately, may feel that they will have to pick and choose to whom they come out to. Others, still, may never feel [...]

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I love this question because the answer has so many possibilities and because it shows that people like Lisa, who asked the question, care about the community.
There are many different types of volunteer agencies that seek to educate, empower, and assist the community. In order to find a good match for you, it is important [...]

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First, I want to say that I am very sorry that this is happening to you and that you do not deserve to be treated this way. Nobody does!
It sounds like you are being bullied. Bullying is essentially one person who wants more power in his or her life using negative, manipulative, and often violent [...]

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The easiest way to answer this question is to tell you not to engage in oral sex if you want to be safe without condoms. I wish there was a different way but there just isn’t!
The reason why condoms are important is because of the fluids that can be transmitted during oral sex. These fluids [...]

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I wouldn’t say that all people hate gays and lesbians. In fact, I would use dislike for the majority of people who have issue with the gay and lesbian community. This is hard question to answer because so many people have their reasons from religious to societal.
The main reason I would say that there has [...]

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Before I answer this question, let’s make sure everyone knows what a dental dam is. A dental dam is a sheet of latex that acts as a barrier between the vagina and/or anus and the mouth and is most commonly used during oral sex.
I really like your question. It is a great one. It hardly [...]

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While Facebook and MySpace can be a fun and healthy way to communicate with your friends, it can also be a place to be bullied, harassed and/or stalked.
You should be allowed to be friends with an ex-partner on one of these sites without having to worry about being picked on, harassed or even have all [...]

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I will always answer ‘No’ to hitting, smacking, punching, kicking, stabbing, biting, shooting-well, you get the picture-etc.
I understand that sometimes the things that our relatives do best is push buttons, especially if we have a lot of them. It is up to you to decide how serious those buttons being pushed are.
Is she making fun [...]

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Joining groups, clubs, organizations and using your friends is really the best way to meet people.

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Mostly when you really love someone, you really respect him/her and wish positive, healthy things for him/her.

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If you find that you are not being who you really are both sexually and emotionally, you will prevent yourself from having healthy, honest relationships.