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I feel bad sometimes. What can I do?

I feel bad sometimes. What can I do?

This is an interesting question and one I have thought about a lot. The answer really depends on why you feel bad. There are several reasons why we as humans would feel bad.

So what we need to do is figure out why you are feeling bad. Do you feel bad because you are feeling physically sick or do you feel bad because you are angry about something? Here are four other common reasons for feeling bad:

Embarrassment-is typically something that happens briefly and then goes away like tripping down the stairs in front of the person we like. Eventually, it will be a funny story we will tell later.

Humiliation-is a feeling we get that we know we do not deserve like when someone picks on us for no reason in front of a group of people. It doesn’t feel fair and you know that you that is undeserved.

Guilt-is the feeling you get when you know you have done something bad and it is the bad feeling you have that serves as a reminder not to do that again.

Shame-is an overwhelming feeling that you are a bad person and that you deserve bad things to happen to you.

All four feelings are uncomfortable and can make anyone feel bad. It is important to decide why you feel bad in order to make you feel better.

Since I don’t know why you feel bad, all I can do is offer ways to cope and hopefully you will begin to feel better.

Here are some things you can do:

  • Talk to someone about your feelings
  • Realize that you are great and that all humans have flaws
  • Journal your feelings
  • Encourage others to share their feelings with you, so you know you aren’t alone and make sure you give them positive feedback.
  • Go out and be social-find activities you love and do them

If I could impart any bit of wisdom that I have gained in my life, it is that you have to express your feelings and not bottle them up. You will find that there are so many people wandering around feeling pretty much the same way. And once you do, you will realize that the weight of what’s making you feel bad will eventually go away.

Love,
Allie

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